Why are we still so embarrassed about masturbating?
- Sep 17, 2019
Around age 10, I start to press my lap against the edge of the kitchen table. No one ever notices and I never make it noticeable. I don’t know...Read More
In a landscape of blonde actresses with chiseled jaws and pearly white teeth, there’s something...Read More
I’m 10 years old and the chattering of teeth is audible in the 9am mist. Teachers warm their hands with their breath as kids spread out before...Read More
When I left university, the first time, I was lucky enough to receive an overseas internship. It was incredibly exciting – and tremendously scary...Read More
He calls himself a feminist, but doesn’t do anything to support the claim. He expects a round of applause anyway.
He says he’s a ‘nice guy...Read More
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A former editor once told me ‘Clickbaity headlines are fine, so long as they’re backed up by quality content.’
I think she was right. As...Read More
If you’re a woman who wants equality you best not have breasts.
Alright, you can have them, but they should be small, though not flat, and...Read More
When Nancy Pelosi, Speaker of the U.S House of Representatives, was asked about...Read More
Dresses must be completely full length. This means below the ankle bone.
Dresses should not dip down between the cleavage area.
A few years ago now, when ‘wellness’ was still a novel concept, I decided to quit sugar. I was sick of my relationship with the white stuff – and...Read More
For my money, the best piece of cinema to come out of 2018 was the opening minute of Beychella . My partner and I watched the Beyoncé Coachella...Read More
Romantic comedy is not a genre beloved by women. Go ahead, survey a bunch of women. If my guess is...Read More
I was 16 when Lady Gaga unearthed me. I was out (to myself and my friends) as...Read More
In certain circles, Laura Bates is considered a legend. She founded The Everyday Sexism Project in 2012– a website touted by some...Read More
As sometimes happens, even if only by coincidence, two vastly similar films were released within months of each other last year. Beautiful Boy and...Read More
It just makes me nervous, you know? What with Hannah Tamaki taking up the reins of the Destiny Church Party (sorry, Coalition New Zealand) and...Read More
Recently, on a Waiheke ferry trip, my partner who I will call M (Filipino) and myself (Pākehā) grabbed a couple of coffees. As we waited for our...Read More
I want to write a letter to the women on the edges. The mothers who allowed me to drink in their garages, their daughters who held back my hair as...Read More
I read the comments.
Oh, God. I read the comments.
It doesn’t require any further context, does it? It doesn’t matter the subject...Read More
It was a rant that did it. I am grateful, now fuck off , wrote Emily Writes in 2015, catapulting herself into...Read More
An apple a day keeps the doctor away. Find a job you love and you’ll never work a day in your life. The customer is always right.
What a...Read More
If you think you don’t know Nat Puff, aka Left at London, you’re probably mistaken.
She’s the internet...Read More
Did you know that doctors in the United States are executing babies after birth? That’s right. Look up ‘born alive’ on Twitter and you’ll discover...Read More
Conferences. I don’t know if I’ve ever attended one that I loved. If there’s a choice between sharing an air-conditioned room with 200 strangers...Read More
After some recent hoopla around the validity of Alanis Morissette’s Jagged Little Pill (...Read More
Joan Didion, speaking on her husband’s shock death in 2003, said she was afraid for the next year to begin. Once the next year began, her husband’...Read More
On There Will Be No Intermission, Amanda Palmer’s first solo album in seven years, the artist sings...Read More
“I’m gonna get it, you’re going to get it, we’re all gonna get it.”
That was...Read More
There was a moment in Dirty John ’s final episode that really made the show for me. It had so far been a...Read More
Remember when Meghan Markle, the Duchess of Sussex, confessed to grabbing people by their...Read More
Allow me to tell you about my quintessentially kiwi adolescence. From the ages...Read More
New Zealand has a strange relationship with its own culture. I’d say it’s debatable whether New Zealand even has a culture. I’m not talking about...Read More
They may not have won gold tonight, but these are the women, and women-led films, that truly deserve our applause...Read More
Founded in Te Atatu, ‘I Am Eva’ is the latest big thing on the NZ period scene. Perhaps they’re...Read More
I’m excited. The Oscars, only the most important event in the global film industry, are a week away tomorrow. I can’t wait to see Debra Granik...Read More
I kept diaries when I was younger. I leaned them against my knees and wrote in them nightly. When I was a child I wrote about my friends at school...Read More
I feel so stupid when it happens. The ‘you’re-a-phony’ siren goes off at such a high screech inside my head - it almost surprises me the...Read More
Hey, sister with a heavy heart.
I’m so sorry about the things you’ve been through.
Know that I feel you, and I hold you in my...Read More
I’ve decided to cut the bullshit this year. Below are my own personal no filter 2019 resolutions. Feel free to steal them, adapt them, use them or...Read More
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The 2019 Academy Awards show, due to take place on February 25 th , is just over two months away. Still a while away in the grand scheme things,...Read More
New Zealand has a problem with violence against women. This will come as no surprise to anyone who has watched the news recently. New changes to...Read More
I believe, as a culture, we’ve come a long way in terms of how we treat mental health. When Britney Spears...Read More
When I think of feminist films, I think of Thelma and Louise , The Colour Purple , and the...Read More
I try to keep things in perspective. I live in New Zealand – the 15 th country in the world to legalise gay marriage. I can walk down the street...Read More
“Blonde!” I told them, “Completely blonde!”
When I went through my last big breakup several years ago, I booked myself a salon sesh almost...Read More
Amanda Palmer didn’t mean for her latest release to be so relevant. Mr Weinstein Will See You Now, her latest Patreon-powered THING – as she likes...Read More
“We’re all born naked – the rest is drag.”
So said Ru Paul once upon a time, gifting the world a fabulous Instagram caption as well as a...Read More
Ariana Grande has been called a diva , a symbol , a leader , and a killer. No link to that last one,...Read More
Dear Kristy, Mary-Anne, Claudia, Stacey, Dawn, Mallory, and Jessi – by way of Ann M....Read More
Abigail Johnson chatted with emerging indie artist Josie Moon about music, aesthetics, and trying to put...Read More
When people call parenting the ‘hardest job in the world’ I often pick up a faint whiff of condescension. It seems like something people think...Read More
Abigail Johnson caught up with pop-country songstress Jamie McDell to see what she’s been up to,...Read More