What to do when you’re worried about your friend’s substance use.
- Jun 19, 2019
What do you do when your friend’s substance use (of alcohol or other drugs) starts affecting their relationships, work, finances, or ability to...Read More
It just makes me nervous, you know? What with Hannah Tamaki taking up the reins of the Destiny Church Party (sorry, Coalition New Zealand) and...Read More
Recently, on a Waiheke ferry trip, my partner who I will call M (Filipino) and myself (Pākehā) grabbed a couple of coffees. As we waited for our...Read More
I’m going to start with the obvious: the best approach to drug law reform will be one that most effectively minimises harm.
The approach...Read More
We all remember it, the all-encompassing dread and deep-seated boredom of a school assembly with a guest speaker. Pretending to pay attention to...Read More
An apple a day keeps the doctor away. Find a job you love and you’ll never work a day in your life. The customer is always right.
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The days following the Notre Dame cathedral fire were fraught with grief and shock as the world...Read More
The Mirena intrauterine system is one of the best forms of contraception in the world. Unfortunately, due to our country’s current funding...Read More
Tall poppy syndrome has been a part of New Zealand culture for nearly as long as we’ve been a country...Read More
Joan Didion, speaking on her husband’s shock death in 2003, said she was afraid for the next year to begin. Once the next year began, her husband’...Read More
It’s bizarre that until recently skincare was an area of my life in which I’ve never taken an evidence-based approach. Over the years, I’ve bought...Read More
Being pretty is a privilege. Being pretty opens doors that are closed for so many others. Being pretty brings power and prosperity.
I’m writing this from my flat in Christchurch. Only two streets over...Read More
On Saturday afternoon we commemorated the Christchurch terror attack with a vigil in Auckland. A sea of Aucklanders poured into the city. We...Read More
Remember when Meghan Markle, the Duchess of Sussex, confessed to grabbing people by their...Read More
Allow me to tell you about my quintessentially kiwi adolescence. From the ages...Read More
Let’s be honest – pop culture hasn’t always been kind to women. Or...Read More
I love true crime documentaries. Netflix has fuelled that obsession. Once I’d watched Making A Murderer , it suggested The Keepers . The...Read More
I kept diaries when I was younger. I leaned them against my knees and wrote in them nightly. When I was a child I wrote about my friends at school...Read More
Hey, sister with a heavy heart.
I’m so sorry about the things you’ve been through.
Know that I feel you, and I hold you in my...Read More
I don’t think about my birth certificate much. It’s a struggle when I have to drag it out...Read More
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What a year. I don’t know anyone who isn’t staggering to the finish this December, counting down the days until they can finish work and fall face...Read More
New Zealand has a problem with violence against women. This will come as no surprise to anyone who has watched the news recently. New changes to...Read More
New Zealand is not great in terms of mental health or support for those with mental illness. That’s putting it lightly. OECD statistics shows how...Read More
Earlier this year, I did some research for Tonic on the use of cannabis to treat symptoms of PMS, namely period pain. Since then, I’ve started...Read More
The midterms were an exciting sign of change for America. Representation for women and...Read More
Dear Mike Hosking,
Hey buddy what’s up? I’m a long time sufferer listener, first time caller.
“Blonde!” I told them, “Completely blonde!”
When I went through my last big breakup several years ago, I booked myself a salon sesh almost...Read More
As a society, we’re bad at coping with sexual harassment. Helping survivors and holding perpetrators to account is not our strong suit. If that...Read More
“We’re all born naked – the rest is drag.”
So said Ru Paul once upon a time, gifting the world a fabulous Instagram caption as well as a...Read More
The way Australia handles...Read More
I want to get one thing out of the way right up front. I’m not saying you can’t have or share an opinion. Everyone can freely express their...Read More
When people call parenting the ‘hardest job in the world’ I often pick up a faint whiff of condescension. It seems like something people think...Read More
I’m a white woman who maintains a biweekly yoga practice, and to be honest, I feel pretty uncomfortable about it.
As with many things, the...Read More
If you’re anything like me, you probably made some kind of New Year’s resolution to read more books in 2018. Well, guess what? It’s almost...Read More
It's a weird and wonderful time to be a woman, depending on where in the world you live. The likes of the #MeToo movement, the Free The Nipple...Read More
Abortion holds a unique space in our society. Few other medical procedures are wished to be both ‘legal’ and ‘rare’. Few medical procedures sit...Read More
Most of us reach a point in our lives where we look around, and suddenly realise that all our mates are either engaged or married. We’ve been so...Read More
A few years ago I had no idea what the term ‘TERF’ meant. It popped up occasionally in my Twitter feed...Read More
There’s a big gap when it comes to teaching young women about money. We don’t do it because money is like sex or peeing in the shower - people get...Read More
Put down your phone. Stop focusing on the tasks you have to do. Think about why you’re here. Breathe.
It sounds simple. But… I’m really...Read More
For the first time ever, this Queen’s Birthday weekend, the number of women receiving honours outnumbered the...Read More
Blood, women’s suffering, and endless parallels with current events. I frequently ask myself why I’m...Read More
“What are you going to do with that?” When I tell people that I study English at university, that’s the response I get. If I mention that Law is...Read More
When you hear the word ‘nice’ what do you think about? Does it denote kindness? Is it vanilla? Is it male? Is it female?
I have a problem...Read More
New Zealand has a party culture. Whether you like that culture or not, it undeniably exists. Binge drinking is a rite of passage and for a lot of...Read More
Last week, Villainesse caught up with Minister for Women Julie Anne Genter. We wanted to know what work was happening in our government towards...Read More
When I was 15 I made myself a Tumblr. Tumblr for me was like a portal to the rest of the world. I grew up in a small town where...Read More
Women are creatures of wisdom. Call it intuition,...Read More
A lot of industries are dominated by men. It’s an unfortunate, retrograde fact, but it’s true. Workplaces were built for men, by men, and not a...Read More