I had woken early with plans to spend the entire day, or as much of it as I could bear, working on a uni project. It was the kind of project with...
You might have seen the memes going around – it’s almost 2020, what have you achieved this decade?
I’m sure it’s meant good-naturedly (...
Earlier this year, The New Yorker published a piece that heralded luxury paint company Farrow & Ball as the arbiters of modern taste in...
I didn’t think I would need to say this. Hell, I didn’t think I would need to be told this.
I’m...
There’s nothing more popular than hating things that are popular, and there’s nothing more mainstream than to look at the mainstream with general...
Even if you feel like you are. The term ‘impostor syndrome’ is increasingly used to describe a situation where despite someone’s achievements,...
Wouldn’t it be great if we lived in a world where conversations about women’s bodies didn’t revolve around: making unsolicited comments about our...
Several years ago, when I was still a baby feminist, I was especially concerned with the number of women running Fortune 500 companies. The...
Let Southside rise, not...
In what may be one of the better news stories we’ve heard this year, the government has...
Since about the age of 15, when I started to learn the basic principles of feminism from extensive amounts of time spent on Tumblr, I have been...
The recent surge in media coverage of the burning of the Amazon aggravated many people’s eco-anxiety. You don’t need to be a climate scientist or...
When I left university, the first time, I was lucky enough to receive an overseas internship. It was incredibly exciting – and tremendously scary...
I wasn’t taught about the history of our country in the way that I should have been.
At...
A former editor once told me ‘Clickbaity headlines are fine, so long as they’re backed up by quality content.’
I think she was right. As...
I was first cast out when I told my fellow students in primary school that my family sometimes ate...
This month, Instagram are testing out a significant change to their app in certain countries, including New Zealand. You can no longer see the...
With things like social media and online petitions helping to engage people in politics, more people than...
For my money, the best piece of cinema to come out of 2018 was the opening minute of Beychella . My partner and I watched the Beyoncé Coachella...
Today, I am 30. I’m not generally hugely reflective, but reaching such an, ahem, advanced age has made me look back over the last few years....
The one thought running through my mind every second of every day at the moment is, “I’m cold. I’m cold. I’m cold.” That’s it, on repeat, all day...
What do you do when your friend’s substance use (of alcohol or other drugs) starts affecting their relationships, work, finances, or ability to...
It just makes me nervous, you know? What with Hannah Tamaki taking up the reins of the Destiny Church Party (sorry, Coalition New Zealand) and...
Recently, on a Waiheke ferry trip, my partner who I will call M (Filipino) and myself (Pākehā) grabbed a couple of coffees. As we waited for our...
I’m going to start with the obvious: the best approach to drug law reform will be one that most effectively minimises harm.
The approach...
We all remember it, the all-encompassing dread and deep-seated boredom of a school assembly with a guest speaker. Pretending to pay attention to...
An apple a day keeps the doctor away. Find a job you love and you’ll never work a day in your life. The customer is always right.
What a...
The days following the Notre Dame cathedral fire were fraught with grief and shock as the world...
The Mirena intrauterine system is one of the best forms of contraception in the world. Unfortunately, due to our country’s current funding...
Tall poppy syndrome has been a part of New Zealand culture for nearly as long as we’ve been a country...
Joan Didion, speaking on her husband’s shock death in 2003, said she was afraid for the next year to begin. Once the next year began, her husband’...
It’s bizarre that until recently skincare was an area of my life in which I’ve never taken an evidence-based approach. Over the years, I’ve bought...
Being pretty is a privilege. Being pretty opens doors that are closed for so many others. Being pretty brings power and prosperity.
How?...
I’m writing this from my flat in Christchurch. Only two streets over...
On Saturday afternoon we commemorated the Christchurch terror attack with a vigil in Auckland. A sea of Aucklanders poured into the city. We...
Remember when Meghan Markle, the Duchess of Sussex, confessed to grabbing people by their...
Allow me to tell you about my quintessentially kiwi adolescence. From the ages...
Let’s be honest – pop culture hasn’t always been kind to women. Or...
I love true crime documentaries. Netflix has fuelled that obsession. Once I’d watched Making A Murderer , it suggested The Keepers . The...
I kept diaries when I was younger. I leaned them against my knees and wrote in them nightly. When I was a child I wrote about my friends at school...
Hey, sister with a heavy heart.
I’m so sorry about the things you’ve been through.
Know that I feel you, and I hold you in my...
I don’t think about my birth certificate much. It’s a struggle when I have to drag it out...
First published on Sunday the 9th of December, 2018, this piece comes in at number 1 in the top 30 most read...
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I...
What a year. I don’t know anyone who isn’t staggering to the finish this December, counting down the days until they can finish work and fall face...
New Zealand has a problem with violence against women. This will come as no surprise to anyone who has watched the news recently. New changes to...
New Zealand is not great in terms of mental health or support for those with mental illness. That’s putting it lightly. OECD statistics shows how...
Earlier this year, I did some research for Tonic on the use of cannabis to treat symptoms of PMS, namely period pain. Since then, I’ve started...
The midterms were an exciting sign of change for America. Representation for women and...
Dear Mike Hosking,
Hey buddy what’s up? I’m a long time sufferer listener, first time caller.
“Blonde!” I told them, “Completely blonde!”
When I went through my last big breakup several years ago, I booked myself a salon sesh almost...
As a society, we’re bad at coping with sexual harassment. Helping survivors and holding perpetrators to account is not our strong suit. If that...
“We’re all born naked – the rest is drag.”
So said Ru Paul once upon a time, gifting the world a fabulous Instagram caption as well as a...
