It’s okay to cut out toxic family members
- Mar 16, 2021
First published on Saturday the 23rd of February, 2019, this piece comes in at number 25 in the top 30 most read Villainesse stories of 2019....Read More
First published on Saturday the 10 th of August, 2019, this piece comes in at number 28 in the top 30 most read Villainesse stories of 2019....Read More
2019 was, quite notably, the year that the climate crisis leapt to the forefront of almost all conversations, both public and private. And it was...Read More
As a society, we are (slowly) becoming more and more sustainably aware. Most people I know bring a reusable cup along when they want a takeaway...Read More
Feeling like you’ve had a productive day can be pretty great. However, I’ve noticed over the last few years is that getting that same sense of...Read More
Somewhere between the G-rated Christmas dinner you’ll be spending with family and the strictly-professional work do, lies the no holds barred end-...Read More
I once heard someone say that hormonal contraception is so effective because after taking it women don’t...Read More
This year, more than ever before, it’s crucial that we make Kirihimete one that is better for our people and our planet. Because the holiday...Read More
You’ve probably heard of the Satisfyer Pro 2 by now. It’s that rose-gold airpod-looking device that’s got folks calling in sick. Users have...Read More
A comprehensive guide to those responsible decisions that we know deep down we should be making already. How many of these planet-friendly habits...Read More
One day my then-boyfriend of two years climbed onto the roof of the school library and...Read More
In my 23 years on this planet, I have consumed a lot of pop culture. Particularly pop culture that focuses on love and romance. I’ve watched every...Read More
I’ve only ever had serious relationships with women. As a queer woman my experience with men is limited to a few young “relationships” extending...Read More
I have always liked shoes. Shoes help you do things and go places. Though my zest for shoes will never rival that of Carrie Bradshaw’s (and I have...Read More
When I was younger, I wanted to be a cyclist. Specifically, I wanted to be like those sunkissed, helmetless Europeans that you see in the movies...Read More
Chanel Miller, for years after the Stanford...Read More
I’ve only been working full time for four months, so I give everyone who’s been working their whole life full permission to roll their eyes and...Read More
He calls himself a feminist, but doesn’t do anything to support the claim. He expects a round of applause anyway.
He says he’s a ‘nice guy...Read More
It’s undeniable - we’re living in truly terrifying times when it comes to the wellbeing of our environment. I feel like I’m barraged with...Read More
Last year, I was asked to speak about medicine alongside two doctors at my old high school’s careers evening. Collectively, we touched on the...Read More
Dresses must be completely full length. This means below the ankle bone.
Dresses should not dip down between the cleavage area.
A few years ago now, when ‘wellness’ was still a novel concept, I decided to quit sugar. I was sick of my relationship with the white stuff – and...Read More
As sometimes happens, even if only by coincidence, two vastly similar films were released within months of each other last year. Beautiful Boy and...Read More
Recently, I had the privilege of hearing Dame Margaret Sparrow, pioneer in sexual health services, speak at the New Zealand Medical Student’s...Read More
New Zealand is not the easiest place to be sober. But we are increasingly questioning our attitudes towards alcohol. The 2019 Global Drug Survey...Read More
Dear parents everywhere: no matter what you think, your child has probably secretly taken drugs. Maybe it’s not all the time, maybe it was just...Read More
I read the comments.
Oh, God. I read the comments.
It doesn’t require any further context, does it? It doesn’t matter the subject...Read More
As the time for university and scholarship applications draws near, my peers are voicing...Read More
Our planet is in trouble. We’ve known about the climate crisis for some time, and now more than ever is the time for collective action. But there’...Read More
Did you know that doctors in the United States are executing babies after birth? That’s right. Look up ‘born alive’ on Twitter and you’ll discover...Read More
As the conversation around sexual assault gains worldwide traction, I’ve discovered a disturbing...Read More
Let me just start off by saying that I have a lot of admiration for people who choose to maintain a vegan or vegetarian diet. Depending on where...Read More
I stayed in a three-year relationship out of fear that my partner would harm himself if I left....Read More
Unless you have been living under a pop culture rock...Read More
Social media is messing with young women. I’m not saying that as a baby boomer who thinks technology is evil. I’m saying that as a young woman...Read More
I’ve decided to cut the bullshit this year. Below are my own personal no filter 2019 resolutions. Feel free to steal them, adapt them, use them or...Read More
Free education for everyone between the ages of five and nineteen. That’s the promise that the Ministry of Education makes to New Zealanders. But...Read More
First published on Monday the 30th of April, 2018, this piece comes in at number 2 in the top 30 most read Villainesse stories of 2018.
First published on Tuesday the 6th of November, 2018, this piece comes in at number 4 in the top 30 most read Villainesse stories of 2018....Read More
First published on Tuesday the 13th of March, 2018, this piece comes in at number 7 in the top 30 most read Villainesse stories of 2018.
First published on Tuesday the 28th of August, 2018, this piece comes in at number 8 in the top 30 most read Villainesse stories of 2018....Read More
First published on Sunday the 25th of March, 2018, this piece comes in at number 14 in the top 30 most read Villainesse stories of 2018.
First published on Saturday the 4th of August, 2018, this piece comes in at number 27 in the top 30 most read Villainesse stories of 2018....Read More
First published on Saturday the 14th of April, 2018, this piece comes in at number 28 in the top 30 most read Villainesse stories of 2018....Read More
First published on Thursday the 13th of September, 2018, this piece comes in at number 30 in the top 30 most read Villainesse stories of 2018....Read More
I am angry. I am not only angry about the senseless deaths of women at the hands of men. I am angry about the bigger picture. I am angry that some...Read More
Trans rights have been in the news a lot lately. The Auckland Pride Parade board’s recent decision to ask police not to march in the parade in...Read More
The holiday season is upon us, and with it comes the weirdest social event of the year: the work Christmas function. No matter how nice the people...Read More
Rugby, beer, and “she’ll be right”. It’s not hard to define masculinity in New Zealand. A total stranger to our country, after watching about ten...Read More
I try to keep things in perspective. I live in New Zealand – the 15 th country in the world to legalise gay marriage. I can walk down the street...Read More
Short answer: yes.
I’m not a ‘climate change denier’. I believe the science. I believe that climate change is an urgent problem that needs...Read More
For many women, Facebook is a platform where they can air their concerns about gender inequality and sexual harassment in a relatively safe...Read More
Imagine cramps so bad that you can’t get out of bed. Every month. Followed by people dismissing the...Read More
The Kavanaugh hearings and the #MeToo movement have revealed one depressing fact about the world: that no matter how terrible the abuse suffered,...Read More
If you were too busy watching Jacinda win over the world with her maiden speech to the UN yesterday, you may have missed the most talked about...Read More
By 2020, New Zealand’s refugee quota will rise by 500, to a total of 1500 refugees per year. That’s progress, but it’s nowhere near enough....Read More
In 1893, we were not classified as people in New Zealand. Personhood hadn’t yet been extended to women. We were non-entities; vital to the future...Read More
I’m old enough (read: not that old) to remember when people said ‘kiwi comedy’ was an oxymoron. The quip still pops up in the rubbish dump that is...Read More
I love doing my makeup.
I also rarely, if ever, wear it.
That’s less the smug statement it may seem, and more a testament to my...Read More