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  • Tue, 6, Nov, 2018 - 5:00:AM

No filter: 25 ways to make women's lives less shit

Because 125 might have been a bit much.

Sex

  1. 1. You can always go home and masturbate. Horny as hell, but she’s not into it? Do that.
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  3. 2. If you’re a non-heterosexual man, realise that you must not touch a woman’s body without express and clear permission – even if you think ‘it doesn’t count because you’re gay’.
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  5. 3. Keep asking her if she’s into it. Make it clear you can stop.
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  7. 4. Seek women friends. Not just potential friends-with-benefits.
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  9. 5. Pay for your porn.
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Home

  1. 1. Do you clean the space you live in? Or does that responsibility fall to a woman? Unless she’s a paid cleaner, amend that.
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  3. 2. Do you both work a full day? Split the meal prep.
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  5. 3. Vacuum.
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  7. 4. She might naturally take on some home duties that you do not. This is because of systemic gender roles, and she may not even realise she’s doing it. See what you can do to lighten the load.
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  9. 5. But listen to her if she says, ‘stay the fuck out of my kitchen.’
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Family

  1. 1. Don’t tell your daughters (nieces, girl cousins etc.) that ‘we do this because we are ladies’, say ‘we do this because we are polite’.
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  3. 2. Flip the ‘like a girl’ pejorative. Say ‘wow, you throw like [Serena Williams]!’
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  5. 3. Give your sons female heroes. ‘One day, if you work hard, you could be Prime Minister like Jacinda Ardern!’
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  7. 4. Read your kids books with female heroes. None on hand? Flip the gender!
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  9. 5. Call your mum (aunty, grandma) and chat to her without agenda. Don’t ask for money. Don’t ask her to do your laundry. Ask her about her day.
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Work

  1. 1. A woman’s being talked over in a meeting? Don’t repeat her point, say ‘Did you all hear what Maria said?’
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  3. 2. A woman with expertise is offering you advice? Listen!
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  5. 3. Don’t call a woman ‘crazy’ in the workplace. Any woman. Even a woman who doesn’t work there.
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  7. 4. Women face a lot of pressure not to cry in the workplace. If a colleague does so, something has really affected her. Be understanding and supportive, but not over the top. Give her space.
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  9. 5. Are you in the position to put sanitary products in the work bathroom? Put sanitary products in the work bathroom!
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Social

  1. 1. Just met a cool lesbian chick? Don’t ask her about lesbian sex, and don’t assume she wants to engage in banter that degrades other women.
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  3. 2. Call out your mates when there are no women present. Call out your mates in the proverbial locker room.
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  5. 3. You don’t catcall women? Sweet! Stop your boys from doing it.
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  7. 4. Realise that the male authors/actors/musicians you revere got a leg up from the patriarchy. Their female counterparts are also worth checking out. 
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  9. 5. Google it before you ask us.

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